Hello. My name is Snaars, and I am a blogger. I use my blog to ease the stress of daily life. I've written a lot of things I'm not proud of, but that's a fact and that's who I am.
I read somewhere that the biggest stressors are lifestyle changes, financial problems, moving, having a baby, going through a divorce, and changing jobs or careers. In the past year and a half I've openly "come out" as an atheist, graduated from college, moved twice, and changed jobs three times. Oh, and had a baby!
Probably the icing on the cake was that five-month debacle with my in-laws while we lived with them. We're still not talking to one another, and we moved out six months ago. We've done everything we can to mend relationships, to no avail. I think they are the poster children of familial dysfunction. We should have heeded the warning signs before we agreed to move in, but we just didn't know how bad they were. It really hurts that they choose to push us away - but then again, who needs people like that, anyway? I just wish we hadn't made ourselves so vulnerable, because we're sure paying for it now.
I've always had a tight budget, but this is the first time in my life that my monthly expenses have exceeded my monthly income.
The worst part is not having clear goals, other than finding a way to survive.
I'm willing to work and do whatever "it" takes - but I don't know what "it" is! My only real desire other than to provide for my family and raise my children well, is to go on to graduate school. But, I don't know how to accomplish that while we are still floundering.
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I hope that Michelle's appointment helps out with the bills. You know, I was on free lunch when I was really small, and we ate vegetables from my mom's extensive garden, and she sewed all my clothing from patterns and marked down fabric... I remember we would only get one gallon of milk a week at the grocery store, which she mixed with water and powdered milk so it would last... In other words, it's not uncommon, I don't think, for families to struggle in the beginning. And you *can* work your way out. Five years after the milk-mixing years, my mother was going back to school.
Snaars said: The worst part is not having clear goals, other than finding a way to survive. My only real desire other than to provide for my family and raise my children well, is to go on to graduate school.
There you have it - clear goals:
Survive - check
Provide for you family - check
Raise your children well - check
Go on to Graduate school...
The BEST of luck to you and your family with those goals. I shall definitely be keeping my fingers well and truely crossed for you that something great turns up.
Thanks, mayfly and ck.
Wow, CK. When you put it that way, I actually feel better. Thank you very much.
In addition to your list of stressors, you can add the conflict with Michelle's family and with your Dad.
Did you ever see the movie, "Perfect Storm"?
You're well on your way to that tale of survival, Snaars. You just can't see it yet because you're on the inside of it.
I've spent all of the time since having our second child with my monthly expences exceeding our monthly income:-(
You change what you can, live off credit, take any help that's offered and remember that it's not going to be forever. there is a light at the end of the tunnel.. just that sometimes the tunnel is very windy, so it's not easy to see!
Good luck with everything, and I hope it improves soon, but as CK says, you have alot of pretty good things right now.
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